BDSM: Ties that make cum (Bondage) II

We are still talking bondage, because in the previous piece I feel that I just brushed through the elements of bondage and most people didn't get it and it's essence. On this piece the focus is more on the stimulation and the finer technique, and it is more nuanced than the last time. Let's do a little recap! So, of the four letters (BDSM), there’s the aspect of bondage. Bondage in simple terms involves consensually binding and tying up your partner. This requires there to be a partner that will dominate and do the tying whilst there will be partner that will be tied up with of course consent. The binding and restraining of the partner are done for both erotic pleasure of both parties involved. In this piece I will be referring to only just two partners but acknowledging that bondage can involve more than two people.

Bondage is important for not just getting erotic but for also tapping into somatosensory stimulation. Somatosensory stimulation is your brain responding to changes inside and outside your body. Bondage then optimally utilises this function the brain and opens up a whole new world of sexual pleasure and enjoyment. Many people get off of the binding and tying whilst other people get off the sensations that come with binding and being restrained.

Like have you ever been so aroused and all you can think of touching your partner and do the unthinkable to them. Now imagine not being able to do that whilst they consensually have their way with you, filing you with pleasure that has the potential to make your brain explode! The benefit of bondage in such a scenario is that it opens up a whole new world of pleasure, but all of that pleasure can only play out in your brain, whilst at the same time you’re also experiencing great physical sexual stimulation.

Anyway, bondage and restraining can be done with various materials and in various ways. Personally, I love my body being bent in ways I never thought that they could. The most popular form of bondage or material used for binding and restraining is rope with standard thickness. These kinds of rope you can find at your local hardware store. The greater the length, the better the binding and restraining. Rope can be used to bind and restrain anything from breasts to limbs.

Another popular form of material is hand cuffs. These can be found at any sex store or a costume store. These come in different forms. They come in bare steal cuffs, leather cuffs and steal cuffs with padding in the form of feathers and other soft materials. These can be use in restraining the hands and the legs, and they also in return can be used to restrain hands to legs or legs to furniture or anything that they can fit in.

There is also bondage tape or duct tape. The precaution to take here is to use tape that will not cut dip into the skin, can bind properly whilst being able to remove, so using sellotape is definitely not the best idea. With tape you can also bind and restrain anything from legs, gagging and breasts.

Bondage is a great way to connect with your partner on a spiritual and mental level, be synced. It opens another world of communication through body, mind and speech. You learn your own body simultaneously with your partner.

Things like pain tolerance and knowing yours and your partner’s are a requirement in bondage, because bondage leads (not necessarily) to sadomasochism, which we will discuss in the next piece. Bondage can be an end on its own and doesn’t have necessarily to sadism or masochism. It is another galaxy of sexual pleasure, bodily stimulation and somatosensory stimulation.

You must however make sure that you engage in bondage safely and not hurt your partner past their consensual pain. Bondage requires care and communication, so the key is to also listen to your partner whilst you also convey what your wish to do to them. In this way sex becomes a deepening of communication rather than the absence of communication, and this applies to every sexual experience.