Polyamory: A terrain unexplored II (Inclusive Polyamorous Relationships and Power Balance)

Striking balance in life is important, and this is also a very important principle in every relationship. Striking balance in power goes without saying especially in polyamorous relationships. We obviously can't deny the stain patriarchy in our society and how that has affected the way we experience relationships, so it is important that we discuss the power dynamics in our relationships, and especially in polyamorous relationships.

In any relationship all parties involved are equals, ideally, whether the other prefers to be dominated or dominate, everyone is equal. But then this then begs the question, how does one be dominated and still be equal to the dominant? Being submissive during a sexual act is a decision, and one has to consent to firstly the act, and subsequently the submission.

The same goes for polyamorous relationships, you can have multiple dominants just as you can have multiple submissives. In inclusive polyamorous relationships, multiple sexual acts can happen all at once, in the same space. Quick example, a bisexual woman with 4 partners, 2 women and 2 men. Whilst the core (bisexual woman) is dominating one man and one woman engaging in a three some, the other 2 can also engage in a sexual activity of the choice, whether be it interactive with the on going three some or not. These can be dominated by whoever, or there could be a change in dominance.

These on going engagements can also happen with no dominance or submission, where there is a complete flat structure, the sexual engagements are not structured but are simply led by sexual desire, libido and lust. At this point the the two can interfere with the three some or those engaging in the threesome can interfere with the other two.

At all turns consent is vital. And at all turns, understanding equality is important because you're all each other's sexual partners. And just as it would be in a monogamous relationship, it is in a polyamorous relationship and sexual engagements.